Education

C deals with some people who are shaping up to be very bad parents because they are parenting "on instinct" and won't read up on parenting issues etc.
I feel like for the last 4 to 6 months we've been TTC "on instinct", and therein lies the problem. I am the sort of person who likes to read up and have all the facts before I embark on anything. The whole TTC thing kind of all happened without any planning.
That's not true.
Our current state of TTC with J has been a bit ad hoc, but saying it happened without planning is not exactly true.
As a bit of back story:
We've been talking about having a baby for a few years now. We'd really only been together a year, maybe even less, before C started making those kinds of noises. And it took me a damn long time to get my head around that.
First instinct: no fucking way.
But then is that fair? And if I say no, then does that jeopardise the relationship? Because with acceptance often comes resentment.
And then there's the drama of actually finding a donor. We emailed with a few guys that we were put in contact with through notice boards. We even met one, but he turned out to be a complete lowlife who used to make prank calls and generally be obnoxious, so that didn't work out.
About a year after that incident (because that really soured the whole idea for us for some time) we hit another noticeboard, and lo and behold came across J, who is a truly nice guy. And because C was so desperate to have things happen RIGHT NOW (instant gratification comes nowhere near describing her), we just kind of rushed in and blundered through, and have been having no success.
So now, as C said, we are taking a break for a month and tracking temps and trying to take the time to learn a little, about our cycles, about the process in general.
My biggest issues is that there is so much information out there, how much of it is misinformation, how much is accurate or even relevant.
Case in point: yesterday at work someone brought cheesecake in for their birthday. My two pregnant co-workers wanted to know if it was safe to have something made with cream cheese, as you are supposed to avoid soft cheese.
A Google search revealed a million different opinions as to whether by soft cheese they mean only soft mould cheese, like camembert or brie, or any soft cheese.
I feel like its impossible to sort the wheat from the chaff, to use a very old phrase. How do you work out what's relevant? And more importantly, what's right?
So even though I'm done with my studies for the summer, my education continues...